So many parents I know are struggling right now with their twenty-something kids, especially young men, who haven’t “launched” in the way society expects. I get it. The world is different now. The old markers of success don’t hold the same meaning, and for many, the path forward feels unclear.

My two sons couldn’t be more different, yet both are finding their path in their own time and in their own way. My older son, Kaiden, joined the Army at seventeen, worked, then earned his degree. He’s independent, responsible, and continues to pursue a career that truly lights him up. During COVID, while many were isolated, he served through the Army in seniors’ residences, giving his time to support the most vulnerable. That experience deepened his resilience and expanded his world outlook. Today, he has a foot in both the corporate and military worlds. I believe this gives him a rare combination of discipline, adaptability, and leadership, and the ability to move between structured systems and real human realities with balance and confidence.

For my younger son, Kerrsen, structure doesn’t suited him as much. During COVID, when so many doors closed, I helped him to keep one open, a safe space where he and his friends could stay connected. I trusted my intuition over rules and gave him the freedom to explore, fall, and learn. That freedom shaped him. In 2020, when his summer job was cancelled, instead of letting him drift, I challenged him to create his own adventure. He decided to drive west with his friend, across the country. The next year, he gathered more friends, and ventured east to the Maritimes. When he finished CEGEP, he travelled to Europe for several months and hiked the Camino in Spain on his own. Last year, he backpacked through South America for almost half a year, volunteering, learning and growing. Each journey brought him closer to himself.

Now, both of them are exploring how to live with purpose, to be of service, to stay free, to build a foundation that’s both meaningful and self-sustaining. One seeks alignment, the other seeks passion, but both are guided by the same truth: that purpose and freedom can coexist.

As a mother, my role has been to hold structure without control, to let them face their own thresholds, to let them fall and rise again, knowing they are always supported. I’ve encouraged them to follow their intuition, to trust that if something doesn’t work out, it’s not failure, it’s redirection toward alignment.

And, perhaps the most important thing I’ve tried to teach them is that they don’t have to have it all figured out. There’s such pressure on young people to define their entire life path in their twenties, but life doesn’t unfold that way. It’s one step at a time, and each step opens the next. The path only reveals its beauty in hindsight. I remind them often that I work with people in their fifties, sixties, even seventies who are still discovering and rediscovering their soul’s mission. We are all evolving, again and again.

So if you’re a parent walking this path too, maybe this is your reminder: trust their process, trust the timing, and trust that they are finding their way, just like we did, one step at a time.

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